As I get older I truly realize that people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. I am realizing though it is not easy for me to accept they are no longer part of my life. I am not talking about those friends that you don’t talk to everyday, but once you do talk to them, it is as if no time has passed (those relationships are different).
I am talking about the girlfriends, guy friends, lovers, or significant others, that have come into my life and for whatever reason leave. Some of these relationships ended without closure, and that is not easy for me to accept; not easy for me to let go without questions being answered. How do you let go of someone who you talked to everyday, laughed with, leaned on and opened up to? How do you accept they no longer want to be a part of your life, without knowing why?
I tend to give and give until I finally realize they don’t want me in their life…it is a hard, hurtful realization, but I do finally realize it and stop putting in the effort. I do finally realize where I fall on their priority list (not even on the list). I realize if someone wants to spend time with me, talk to me, or text me, they will! It’s that simple. If they don’t, their actions will show it…also that simple. “Someone’s effort is a reflection of their interest in you.” “If your absence doesn’t affect them, your presence never mattered.”
There is a saying “Whoever is meant to be in your life will always gravitate back towards you, regardless how far they wander,” but aren’t I worth more than someone wandering away, especially without telling me why? I believe more in “People will come and go in life, but the right ones will always stay!”